Identify & Release Disempowering Beliefs

Identify and release disempowering beliefs through an empowering process of awareness, acceptance and the freedom to move forward.

I once was paralyzed by the fear of what other people would say about me.

And that fear held me back from sharing the full potential of my voice. It kept me from contributing my highest calling.

I let others’ opinions keep me small because I believed their opinions of me more than I believed myself.

My core beliefs were coming from a disempowered place, and that shaped everything in life.

Over time, however, the more clear I became about what I believed, the more I realized what the world believed about me was less and less important.

I chose to shed my disempowering beliefs and, instead, choose to believe in the truth that lived in my heart.

And that changed everything for me.

Ready to identify and release the disempowering beliefs that are holding you back from your greatest potential?

Let’s dive in.

Identifying Our Beliefs

In order to choose an empowering belief over a disempowering belief, you must first learn to identify the differences between them.

Disempowering Beliefs

Disempowered beliefs are the ones that knock us out of alignment and keep us from becoming who we know we can be — and who God made us to be. They keep us from accessing our higher selves and callings.

How do we get them in the first place? They’re formed by our life experiences, other people and the world around us.

For example, the most painful disempowering belief I ever carried was: I am a bad mom. It developed from a life experience, after I lost my son in an accidental drowning. The pain made me believe the loss was my fault, even though that wasn’t true.

What was true was that I was an exhausted mother doing her best to take care of her children, yet an unthinkable tragedy occurred.

The truth is I was not to blame. But the pain was too deep. So for a while, I allowed fiction to become fact, and the disempowering belief took hold of me.

Disempowering beliefs can show up as:

  • Depleted energy
  • Emotional suffering
  • Victimhood mindset
  • Crippling fear and self-doubt
  • Unfavorable results
  • Undesired outcomes
  • And more

Empowering Beliefs

Empowered beliefs keep us in alignment with our Authentic Selves and higher callings. They help us expand into our truth and create our life’s greatest work. They help us see ourselves as God sees us already.

They’re not formed from other people’s beliefs or opinions of us. They’re not even formed from our life experiences. They’re the truths that are already present within us. The trick is learning to access and accept them.

When I was ready to change my life, I first had to change my beliefs about what happened to me and what it meant about me. That transformation began as a series of questions. I examined the quality and truth of all my beliefs, and I realized something incredible.

I had let the painful experiences of my life influence what I believe about myself, others and the world around me. I had been carrying them for years, and they were keeping me stuck — in toxic relationships, people-pleasing behaviors and unhealthy boundaries. I was letting them quiet my voice and keep me small.

However, if my beliefs were the vehicles that were transporting me to these destinations I didn’t like, then I could also use them to transport me to the destinations I desired. I just had to change them.

And when my beliefs changed, so did I.

I began to listen to my heart, and I discovered new beliefs. In fact, I believed I was smart, talented, creative, kind and capable. More than that, I had an entirely different vision for what I wanted my life to look like.

And when my beliefs began to align with that vision, that’s when everything changed for me.

For you, empowering beliefs my show up as:

  • Renewing energy
  • Connection to gratitude
  • Positive meanings
  • Elevated thinking and emotions
  • Intentional interpretation of life experiences
  • Opportunities to redesign/reframe
  • Outcomes that align with your life’s vision
  • And more

How To Release Disempowering Beliefs

Once you understand the difference between disempowering and empowering beliefs, it’s time to start making the distinction in your own life.

1. Awareness

The first step is to simply start paying attention to the quality of your beliefs.

You could approach this with intention by doing a Belief Inventory self-assessment. Start with the three Core Belief questions from above, and use them as prompts to write down every belief you can think of — negative or positive. Once you have a comprehensive list, decide if each one is a true, empowering belief — or a false, disempowering one.

Sometimes, deciding if a belief is empowering or disempowering is harder than it seems. In these cases, shift your awareness to the underlying emotion. What emotion is driving this belief, and is that feeling depleting or renewing? Does it trigger or expand you?

You see, emotions carry energy that affects us. Some emotions are so low-vibrational that they deplete the mind and the physical body. Other emotions raise our vibrations and fuel us with an uplifting, compassionate energy. (For more details about the energy of emotions, check out “The Map of Consciousness Explained” by David R. Hawkins.)

Do you hear yourself saying: I’m exhausted. Do you shut down every time you face conflict? Do you feel nothing at all sometimes?

Consider how your belief makes you feel — and if it feels renewing or depleting. Then decide if it’s true. Now you can adjust accordingly.

2. Acceptance

Becoming aware of a belief and letting go of it are two different things — and that difference is acceptance.

Start by asking yourself: Do I accept this belief as true?

If it’s an empowering belief — I’m a good mom — then accept it as truth by letting it expand into your thoughts, feelings and actions.

If it’s a disempowering belief — I’m a bad mom — then ask yourself if this belief has been influenced by tragedy, abuse or malice. Is it coming from your mind or your heart? Do I have to accept this as truth — or can I accept something different?

There’s a moment of acceptance that has to occur, to transform a disempowering belief into an empowering one. But once you accept a new truth, the shift happens within you.

What happened, happened. But you do not have to continue to believe or repeat the experience by holding it within your beliefs.

Just because someone told you that you weren’t enough — it doesn’t mean you aren’t enough.

The truth is, if you accept their opinion, you will stay disempowered. But if you accept that it’s just something that happened to you, then you’re free to move forward.

3. Free To Move Forward

Beliefs are not fixed.

We learned them, and we can unlearn them.

That means our beliefs can be released, expanded and redesigned at any time in our life.

So the question is: What do you believe?

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How do you release disempowering beliefs? What does it feel like when you let them go?

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Melissa Hull Global Media CEO • International Speaker • Story Coach • Show Host • Author on Child Loss

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